The value system that I most relate to would be the rationalism approach. I tend to stop, step back, and look at the whole situation before I make any type of decision. I look at the pros and cons of doing anything. I used to be a very impulsive person when it came to making any decisions that needed to be made. I would just act without thinking about the consequences, and now it seems that I am the complete opposite. Now instead of having many, one-night-affairs, I have had a domesticated partner that I am with for five years now. He and I have decided that marriage is not our “forte” but I will go into marriage and the different reasons as to why and why not in another paper.
Secondarily, I relate to the situational ethics approach. I feel that it is very important for a person to base their decisions on their own judgments. They should not give into “peer pressures” or “social pressures”. Many people are against abortion. I, myself, grew up as a person who never thought I would have one, but when I had already had one pre-mature, and special needs child, and this new baby was more than likely going to cause us both some medical problems, including maybe death, I change my view points on how I should look at a lot of different situations in life[NLM1] . It made me think critically in a few ways that we will discuss momentarily.
I do not feel that I relate to any of the approaches that involve a person making a choice because of their religion. I really do think people should do what they feel is in their best interest, not what others think is their best interest. This keeps me from following the legalism, ethical relativism, asceticism, and utilitarianism approaches. I do however, agree and find the hedonism approach to be a valid approach. I believe that we are on this planet for too short of a time to stop and if it makes you happy, then go for it!
I use the principles of critical thinking in making sexual decisions not in many ways, because for the most part, I still tend to go from my gut feeling or emotion, so I am not really critically thinking during the process before, or during. I do have to sometimes stop and weigh out the pros and cons. I have been with my boyfriend for five years now (as I said before), and before I was with him, I never had any pain during intercourse, then about three years ago, I found out that I have endometriosis, and it is very painful. I have to think about if it going to hurt me more lately, or can I handle the pain? I get a prescription of Vicodin every month, and it has become a habit of “taking a pill” before I even think about having intercourse. We used to be able to get caught up in the moment, and now, I have to stop and take pre-cautions beforehand. You can defiantly see that I am “cautious in drawing in conclusions from evidence” (Rathus, S. A., Nevid, J.S., and Fichner-Rathus, L. 2005). My boyfriend and I will never get married. We have both decided that marriage only complicates things, and once the government gets involved, it’s over from there! So, we have cohabitated just fine the way we are for the last five years. I try not to “oversimplify” or “over-generalize”, and I have always tried to “consider the kinds of evidence upon which conclusions are based” ( Rathus, S. A., Nevid, J.S., and Fichner-Rathus, L. 2005).These are all good examples of how I use critical thinking in my sexual life every day. All of which allow my boyfriend and I to happily co-exist, and have a somewhat “healthy” sexual life.
Rathus, S. A., Nevid, J.S., and Fichner-Rathus, L. (2005). Human sexuality in a world of diversity. (6thed.) Boston: Allyn and Bacon.